The Rules of Straight Porno

Like all horny men I enjoy pornography. Pornography is where most of us get our sexual education. It is where most of our ideas about sex are formed. Unfortunately it is often a poor place to get one's first training in sexuality.

So what exactly is our sexual education?

Who are our educators?

What are they telling us?

How far does this affect us?

In life we learn all kinds of rules without being explicitly told they are rules. We see others doing things a certain way and we effectively start to understand the unspoken rules of life.

When it comes to sex one of our biggest instructors regarding these unspoken rules about sex is porno. Straight men grow up looking at straight porno. In fact most men (straight, gay, bi, etc....) grew up watching straight porno. So what are these rules?

Allow me to describe what could be an average straight porno movie:

Scene 1: A Man and a Woman have sex

Scene 2: A Man has sex with two Women. The two Women also have sex with each other.

Scene 3: Two Men have sex with one Woman. The Men do not have sex with each other. They don't even touch each other in any way that is erotic.

scene 4: Two Women have sex with each other.

Scene 5: Two Men and two Women have a foursome. The Women also have sex with each other in the course of this foursome but the men do not.

I have just Illustrated the rules of straight porno.

Men have sex with women. Women have sex with men and with the other women. Men do not have sex with men.

Just to be clear when I say "have sex" I don't necessarily mean fucking each other. I mean they don't suck or lick or rub each other's cocks. They don't masturbate each other. They don't rub their cocks together. The women do this and lots more, but not the men.

Just imagine an MMF threesome in a straight porno movie. The woman is on her hands and knees ready to get fucked doggy-style. One of the guys comes up behind the woman. Another guy puts his hand around the first guy's cock and masturbates him for a few seconds and helps put it in her pussy. If any guys in the straight porn industry did that they would be blacklisted. If it were MFF you would probably see one woman masturbating his cock and putting it inside the other woman. More likely she would suck it too and lick the other woman's cunt.

I have seen lots of pussy-to-mouth action involving two women and one man. But how about one guy sucking the pussy juice off another man's cock before putting it back in her? Even bi porn doesn't show much of that. Bi porn seems more centered on anal sex.

I have a feeling that a lot of straight men would like to suck cock and lick pussy at the same time. Anal sex with another man is another matter. Just like there are many women who occasionally will lick another woman's pussy but they may not be into being fucked up the ass with a strap-on by another woman.

Any straight man who says he has never thought about sucking cock is lying to you. He knows what it is like to have his cock sucked and surely he wonders what it is like to be the one doing the sucking.

Even as far as being fucked I could say the same thing although we do not have a pussy. We have an asshole. Pussies and assholes may both be holes but they are not the same thing. Pussies are designed for cocks to go inside. Assholes take more effort and there's also hygiene considerations. And yes, I am fully aware of the prostate gland and I have stimulated mine and it feels great. (I still laugh when I think of somebody who wrote that if men's prostates were on their foreheads they would be constantly rubbing their foreheads). Still, anal sex is a bigger "commitment" than oral sex.

Sex has always been politicized. The rules of straight porno are certainly sociopolitical. I think politics ruins sex.

Heck, politics ruins everything.

Porno has changed greatly and not for the better. On the one hand we have more diversity now. We have more variety but it is usually cheap, unappealing, poorly filmed, unimaginative and the actors are often unappealing.

What do you think?