How to Be a Real Hot Wife

So, you want to be a hot wife, yes? Let me make it simple for you my dear future soulmate, a hot wife is exactly what the name suggests: She is a married woman (who aims to remain married) who also feels attractive and sexy.

Therefore, a hot wife is neither a carless woman who doesn't look after herself but wants to get free ticket to sleep with other men nor a sexy woman who is looking to divorce her husband at the first encounter with a rich, handsome man.

An actual, real, hot wife is a far cry from what men imagine them to be and the situations in which the popular Internet erotica place them. In particular, a hot wife is first and foremost a woman in charge of her sexuality. She doesn't need to be "hooked up" by her husband nor get into unsafe or embarrassing situations; she may not engage in sex at all and yet feel hot. In short, a hot wife is a happy married woman.

Now, how do you transition from being an ordinary wife to a hot wife? What is it that you must change, and how do you tell you have become one? As you might have guessed, you don't turn into a hot wife by achieving a set number of goals but by prioritising two key aspects of your life: your body (and how good you feel in it) and your sexual pleasure.

Let us dive straight into the "hot" aspect. A regular wife assumes that because she's already won a husband, she doesn't need to look after herself. Many insecure husbands even promote this behaviour by letting their wives put on weight to the point of threatening their health. A hot wife always takes measures to feel good in her skin and to be aggregable to herself in the mirror. She doesn't mind if her looks are decent or indecent; if she is too old or too young to wear a given outfit. A hot wife does not hide her legs because she is ashamed of cellulitis. She doesn't hide her boobs because they are too small or too large. She celebrates her body and works hard to improve it within the boundaries of her age and genes. A hot wife focuses on what is under her control; the hours she spends in the gym and her attention to detail to her dressing, hair and makeup. A hot wife's looks are always in tune with her hotness potential.

As you improve your looks, you don't ask for feedback. Never ask to your husband or friends whether you are slimmer or prettier than "before". Asking is a sign of insecurity. You are your own best judge. Compliments will always arrive for free; but be patient if you are starting your journey from a low point.

The last point about hot aspect is that you should feel hot at all times; when you go to the supermarket, when you go to work, when you walk the dog. Always mind your underwear as well because you never know when or where you may need to undress.

Now that we are done with "hot", let us look into the wife side of hot wife. As I said before, the whole point of a hot wife is that she is a wife and remains one, so the transformation away from "ordinary wife" should not be toward "hot divorcee".

There are essentially two situations; either your husband has prompted you to consider the hot wife "life style" (I hate that word) or you have bought into it yourself, but your husband hasn't got a clue as to what you are up to. Let me clarify that the state of being a hot wife is not a contract with rules about what is tolerable or not to your husband since this defies the goal of being in charge and in control of your sexuality; to spell it in clear English: when, where, with whom, and how often you want to fuck is under your control only. A hot wife is not a swinger nor in an "open relationship". She is just in control of something she already owns by nature and has taken away from her for centuries and in many (but not all) cultures by social convention: her vagina.

Now, getting back to your husband, it is not like you will arrive one evening and confess to him that you've decided to turn into a hot wife. First, if you've been investing in your body and image, things would have changed already; it is likely that your husband would have called out the attention you have been receiving from other men and his feelings about it. If he is happy and secure next to you and takes the attention you get as a compliment to him as well, then there is little further work to do.

What you have to find out is the extent to which your husband will facilitate your sexual freedom so that you can enjoy yourself more often and in a safer manner. Some husbands will help you dress and select a killing set of lingerie but that's about it. Some others, instead, will always come to pick you up after one of those "one too many drinks" night outs, don't ask you too many questions, and even fuck you again.

For most hot wives, though, there are no "rules", "agreements", with their husbands. You husband will tell (unless he is blind) that you are becoming hotter every day and that it would be surprising if you hadn't been fucked a few times already. What can't possible happen is that you act in a sloppy manner. And speaking of rules again, even though you may not have an agreement with your husband, there are rules for yourself, my dear. These can be summarised in two: discretion and safety. Whatever you do, never ever risk your reputation nor your safety. Flirt, tease, fantasise if you must but a hot wife will never let gossip or disease (more on condoms in a few moments) enter her home. And here lies the difference between a slut (and future divorcee) and a hot wife. A hot wife is not stupid.

Having said the above, a hot wife life style is not about adultery and cheating. Most regular wives who cheat aren't hot (this is why they don't get attention from their husbands in the first place), get picked by average-looking men and are carless both about discretion and safety. Hot wives don't do slutty things like agreeing to meet men in hotels or worst, at home. Planning encounters with men is the domain of whores. We don't do that. There is no contradiction here. You become a hot wife precisely because, unlike a boring wife, you want to always feel beautiful and ready to fuck in any place and at any time. This is why, you carry always a pair of condoms in your purse. Did I say condoms in the last sentence? Yes, and I've been asked a couple of odd questions about them before: "Isn't it embarrassing to buy them and how do you hide them?".

The answer to these two questions is that safety is never embarrassing and hiding what gives you safety detracts from it. In my case, my husband buys "my" condoms and I take new ones every three days or so and discard the old ones since the heat and movement of the purse make them more prone to tear. My husband is happy that he doesn't need to carry them with him and that we can fuck at any time in any place which is what being a hot wife is all about; remember?

The "ready to fuck" feeling is empowering and it also adds spiciness to one's marriage. As I said before, I don't let condoms get ruined in my purse so I get new ones frequently but I make sure I always dispose of them outside home and place the new ones in my purse in front of my husband before going out. This leaves an air of mystery as to the outcome of the old ones. Have I just thrown them in the bin? Have I made balloons for a hen party? Or were they full of cum?

A good friend of mine was questioned by her husband as to whether she needed to get new condoms all the time. Her answer was "If I were to be using them to fuck, would you have wanted me to fuck without them?". Not another word.

One final comment now that the safety topic is settled is about sex-wise targets and goals. I find "keeping score" a very male-orientated attitude to sex. What do I mean by targets and goals? Something along the lines of "fuck 100 men before you die" or tick boxes such as "experience a three some", "fuck someone younger than me", etc. The reason I oppose this mentality is that I see it as a form of premeditation and not the result of spontaneous genuine sex drive. For me, my goal is just one: to fuck whenever I am wet provided that the setting is discrete and safe. In most cases, my husband is always within reach when these conditions are met. And yes, you still need discretion when fucking your own husband in a plane's restroom.

As I have mentioned early on, this life style is not about adultery; it is just about feeling great in your body and empowered in your mind. The experience of most of my friends that I count in the "hot wife club" is the same as mine; we have the power to seduce any men and fuck them like wild animals but we exert such a power on our very husbands... most of the time.